WATCH: Cape Town dad opens up about the struggles of being a stay-at-home parent

A proud father carrying a child on his shoulders. Picture: Unsplash

A proud father carrying a child on his shoulders. Picture: Unsplash

Published Jun 16, 2024


Being a stay-at-home parent has its fair share of challenges and most parents stepping into the role hardly ever get recognition for their efforts.

A proud stay-at-home dad, Grant Scott, aka @daddiesgown, took to TikTok to open up about his experience as a stay-at-home parent and find out how other stay-at-home moms and dads were coping with the job.

The Durban-born father of an eighth-month-old baby boy says he takes care of the house while his wife works, or “gets the bacon”, in Cape Town.

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“Luckily, my wife works in the law industry and she makes enough that we can survive at the moment while I look after the child, while I figure out what I want to do with my life and until we feel comfortable having someone look after our child.

“I mean, that’s just our decision,” said Scott.

Opening up about his role as a stay-at-home dad, Scott said he did the laundry, dishes and all the housework.

He said it was more difficult than most people thought it was, especially while taking care of a child.

“It’s pretty hard, I won’t lie. It’s a different hard to working at work and the office. It’s a lot harder than you think.

“And this is to the dads out there who just think that your wives just stay at home and they can’t really tell you what they did all day but they know inside that they were busy.”

Scott said that being a stay-at-home parent could get lonely. In order to take care of his mental health, he went for walks to the park during the day.

“I just hung up two loads of washing with this little kid strapped to me and I’ll tell you, that was a flipping gym work out. I used to play rugby and I’ll tell you what, that was really really hard, really really challenging.

“I just want to put a rant out there and ask other moms how do they do it, or stay-at-home dads: How do you manage to hang up your washing and do your washing with your child?”

Commenting on his post, @pruep, said: “I always tell my husband that working is easier than being a stay at home’s a job that does not end and it’s very unappreciated because it looks easy to most 👏.”

Another user, @on.the.dl, said: “Get a play pen with a play mat to put inside with all age appropriate toys. That way he can play in a safe contained environment while you’re doing the housework. You’re doing a great job dad! 💪.”

@nokukhanyo.mvinjelw said: “I wish I can exchange roles with my husband. I don’t feel he appreciates what I do much...worse I raised twins alone it was hard it’s still hard even though they go to school.”

@biancafynn0 said: “It’s definitely isolating, and when you meet other adults all you know is to talk baby. but definitely take it one day at a time don’t try to stick strictly to a schedule, it messes with mental.”